friend stealer

so my 2-week old ex-boyfriend has turned into a complete dummie. i mean i kinda knew he wasn't the sharpest tool in the shed (one of the reasons we broke up), but his latest actions take the fucking cake (god i'm full of cliches today).

first let me set this up. we all know that i'm new to NYC. been here almost a year (which in this town still means new). i have my handful of old friends (mostly college buddies) and an even smaller handful of new friends that i actually call to do stuff with. most everyone else i come across fits into the acquaintance category. i see them from time to time, but not on a regular basis. regardless, having new people that i actually like hanging out with is somewhat of a big deal to me. i'm an only child and have always valued my freindships. it's kind of like you're robbed of having siblings, so friends are super important.

getting to the point of the story. so alex (the ex) was a loner type. it was actually a red flag when i first met him... that he only had 1 good friend. i tend to judge people on their friends, so it was hard to judge him on this 1 dude. he told me he wasn't really a social guy. kind of kept to himself. went out by himself a lot, etc, etc. i obviously looked past that, as i found other qualities that made up for his lack of a social circle.

well, what do you know? we start going out and i broaden his horizons. he actually enjoyed meeting other people and going to parties (something he never thought he liked). i think he got on this social high, learning from me and all my efforts to socialize and meet as many interesting people as possible.

cut to last night. i get a phone call from one of my new friends telling me he has some strange news. he and my other new girlfriend had been invited to alex's house for a dinner party! WHAT??? it's been two weeks and he's throwing a dinner party for MY friends??? what the fuck is that? i'm confused and pissed and just think it's weird behavior to be calling my friends that i introduced him to. granted, we'd all hung out on various occassions, but they had never gotten together without me before. this is weird right?

so i call alex to ask what the fuck? he finds no fault in his actions. doesn't get why i'm getting all bent out of shape. like i said "not the sharpest tool..." i can't decide if he's playing the stupid card, or if he truly doens't think this is a big deal. then i find out he's been emailing and calling various other friends of mine in LA! huh???? i just want to shout from the rooftops GET YOUR OWN FRIENDS, don't take mine. i mean this is the kind of stuff that makes for a great sex and the city episode. "THE FRIEND STEALER."

it's just too too soon. i don't think i'd have as much of a problem with it if it were months later. but 2 weeks!?! and where did he get all of these friends all of a sudden? he had 1 friend when i knew him. guess my fun socializing rubbed off a little too strong on him. it's like i created a monster.

lesson learned: next boyfriend must have many many friends so he can't take mine. :)